Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Relationships and you...

Woohoo!! It was Valentine's Day again (yesterday) and all the guys who are attached had to fork out a whole truckload of cash for this special occasion. Cash for an over-priced Valentine's Day dinner at some fine-dining restaurant, flowers that are outrageously expensive (only for Valentine's Day), and some lavish gift for his beloved. As for the women-folk, they only need to fork out a lump sum for her beloved's present. All these can cost easily from RM200 to RM2000 depending on how extravagant and how deep your pockets are.

Wait a minute... isn't Valentine's Day a special occasion for couples to celebrate their love for each other? How does all these materialistic items fit in? Students who are taking allowance from their parents are willing to spend up to a thousand ringgit (or more) and workers who are just earning RM1,800 permonth spending RM2,400 for a Nokia N70 for his/her beloved. Isn't this a bit excessive? What happened to the good o' spending time together and having heart to heart talk? Is Valentine's Day a day to break the bank and spend unnecessarily on lavish gifts? I don't quite see the connection between expressing your love for the other through extravagant gifts. (especially when you are a student or a fresh graduate who is barely making ends meet with your meagre salary)

Once again, I am appalled by the way the world commercializes a very special occasion. The nobel occasion of celebrating one's love for the other has 'evolved' (or 'devolved'?) into a time when you must spend lavishly in order to prove your love for your partner. I have nothing against spending for the one you love on each Valentine's Day,(in fact, you SHOULD) but when you start using materialistic items as a measurement of love, you have one screwed up relationship.

3 comments:

genie said...

hahaha...very good...i agree with ur opinion...but sometimes...it's this special moment that we buy gifts for our beloved...

Lincoln said...

It's not just valentine's day. It's on every occasion where people have to buy gifts that people spend tonnes of money on it. Other examples are Christmas and birthdays.

I guess the media is partly to blame for the "evolution" of such festivities. With the increase of advertising creation and innovation, people's minds have somehow been "brainwashed" into thinking that the value of a person is measured up to the price of the gift we give present to them.

Just to make my stance clear, I'm not against buying gifts for people. Just that don't overdo it. Oh ya, if you guys are thinking of getting me something extravagant on any occasion, you're most welcomed. :P Wahaha!

Unka said...

Oi oi Lincoln...
Trying to woo readers of my blog to buy lavish gifts on you eh? Ish...

The most sickening part is that if you don't spend lavishly, the society at large will have think that you just don't love your partner enough or you are plain stingy.

Hell...even couples these days look forward to major commercialized events because they expect to be rewarded handsomely. I have yet to come across anyone who doesn't conform to "society's standards". Well...that's reality for all of us. Welcome to the world of materialism.